Thursday, March 16, 2023

Some of us have had tough lives!

Some of us have had tough lives!

I share my struggles of childhood abuse, sexual abuse. Physical abuse and emotional abuse because if I inspire one person, that is good enough.

Some will never know what it’s like to go hungry or be scared every single day of your life, not having any support system and trying to break the cycle with our own kids.

As hard as we try, they have to go out in the world and the world gobbles them up into selfishness, hate, anger, even towards the family that has loved and supported them.

Thus the cycle continues.

There is nothing parents can do to ward it off.

So we are left with tears, heartache and abandonment.

Be careful of who you encourage and congratulate. You dont know the whole story, you don’t know the heartache. The suffering, the abuse.

Don’t judge unless you are ready to be judged.

Anyone worth their weight would encourage reconciliation not abandonment. Stop feeding into that. You are part of the problem.

This world is hard enough without your two cents LHM


  1. So please answer this. Where was God when I was being sexually molested at 8 yrs old, continued for the next 5 yrs by my dad? Where was God while we watched as toddlers, my dad beat up my mom?

    1. well I do not think you wanted a response since you posted anonymously. But God was there as He was for me.
      I grew up in an extremely abusive household. Emotional, mental, physical and sexual. It was a childhood I never wish on anyone. I questioned if God forgot about me. But I truly believe he protected me from death so I could be here now and testify.
      I’ve been with women that have screamed and yelled and scared their children to the point that I would throw up when I got home. I even threw up in a parking lot once. I would keep my mouth shut for the most part because I knew what would happen if I spoke up, alienation. I’ve witnessed break downs and pulling hair out, and promises of getting counseling. And then next day act as if nothing happened. Begging me not to tell anyone.
      Abuse doesn’t always come in the most physical of forms but the mental beat down of someone. It could be coworkers, siblings, children and even towards parents.
      I can testify that no amount of counseling, self reflecting, speaking up, shutting down helps.
      Sometimes ALL we have is prayer. And knowing that God is working in ways we never knew.
      Sometimes some one is fighting battles they never knew they have. I witnessed this a few days ago and it was heart wrenching.
      So instead of giving affirmation of someone seeking self worth, you see it for what it is and not hop on the train.
      Let me tell you that I know for a FACT that the system is still letting women/girls (although sexual abuse is not limited to females!) down. Amazing that a predator can go on and live his life like nothing ever happened but the victim will have a lifetime of sorrow. You can be free with Christ but that does not mean the pain does not creep up and haunt you. Confide in someone you can trust at the very least, it is nice to be able to talk about it no matter how long ago the abuse takes place. In a victims mind, it happened.
      44 percent of sexual assault victims are under age 18.
      Someone in the US is sexually assaulted every 2 minutes.
      1 out of every 6 women in America has been the victim of an attempted or rape in her lifetime.
      Sexual assault is the most under-reported violent crime in the U.S. Only 46 percent of sexual assaults have been reported over the past 5 years.
      Two-thirds of assaults are committed by someone the victim knows.
      Girls ages 16 to 19 are four times more likely than the general population to be victims of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault.
      5 percent of males in grades 9-12 said they have been sexually abused.
      93 percent of juvenile sexual assault victims know their attacker.
      Victims of sexual assault are 26 times more likely to abuse drugs. And 13 times more likely to abuse alcohol.
      1 in 33 American men have experienced attempted rape or rape in their lifetime.
      There are 207,754 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault every year.