Monday, January 23, 2017

I Am NOT A Nasty Woman

If you haven't already heard, seems there was a little protest, a march even, that happened around our nation this weekend. The premise was  love but what I saw was nothing  like that. What I saw was vulgarity, disrespect, hate even, treason, trash littered throughout of streets leaving it up to someone else to clean and yes nastiness.

With my up bringing, I wasn't taught how to be a woman, let alone a beautiful Proverbs 31 woman. I was taught nothing. It took many years for me to turn that nothing into something. It even robbed me of being the best mom I could have given my girls. Since I was learning, they were my mistakes, my rewards and I their lessons, their example, and their hope. While I failed at many things, the one I excelled in was them seeing what perseverance and hope will get you, where your hard work, faith is someone greater than you, someone who not only created us but loves you even when we can't love ourselves . I didn't need to protest or march. What I needed was a path that lead to righteousness and not self-righteousness.
Why aren't we marching to show the world what we women are suppose to be? Heck why aren't we living it? Why aren't we rejoicing in the beautiful form God has made us, why aren't we revivaling as Christian Women?  What women are called to be? What women need to be? Because of these marches and protests, the world is giving us what we are asking for.  We are almost always required to limit the number of kids we have because of affordability, moms who now are forced to work and put their kids in day care, often not seeing them but minutes a day, moms that are forced to purchase fast food instead of having the skills and time to cook for her family. A mom who can't or won't show the  proper way to be a wife, to respect her husband, to love him the way he deserves and God demands. A mom who can't or won't make time to do things with her kids or  take them to sports, clubs or even to the playground. A mom who is so tired from her job, she simply has nothing left to give of herself at the end of a day. A mom who can't keep up with the house, the laundry or what her children are listening too, watching or doing. A mom who has now failed her children, her husband and her home. A mom who now makes excuses instead of standing up and making a home.
What we need is a back to basics world. One where we are actually part of and influential  in how our children are raised. What we put on them, in them digestively and mentally AND most important spiritually. A mom that their kids don't need therapy for. A mom that has the perseverance to be a shoulder to cry on and a truth to be spoken. Not a part time, bandaid sticking absent mom. 
And what do our husbands deserve? Our husbands whom, next to God, should be the most important part of our lives? They deserve a Proverbs 31 woman. A woman who respects and nurtures him. One who is there for him in every way she should be. One who cheers him, encourages him and lets him lead her family in a strong foundation that is honorable to God. A helpmate that she is called to be. Our husbands deserve love, kindness, cleanliness, holiness. A woman that when he is at his ugliness, she is there to make it beautiful again. One that when she is at her bottom, she allows him to pick her up. 
Women are beautiful and never deserving of anything less than their worth and love. I am never for any women being abused, neglected and dishonored. All of which I had experienced even before the age of 10. What I am for is women showing the best of themselves, getting what they give. Even in the wake of others showing the nastiness of themselves. But I expect that for all of God's creatures. We are here for only a whisper, don't we want that breath to be of beauty, love, sacrifice and selflessness?
No I am NOT a nasty women, I am a Proverbs 31 Woman. I think it is high time to take back the definition of feminist! A feminist should be someone who embraces being the WOMAN God has called her to be! A wife, a helpmate, a mother, a nurturer, keeper of her home, the accountability of how her children are brought up. #Proverbs31WayOfLife #LetsNotMarchButLiveTheLife
Peace, Love and EnJoy

Proverbs 31
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character

10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
    She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,

and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.


  1. Thank you for posting this, I am not a nasty woman either AND I love my man, my husband, the father of my children. We spoke to one anoter wen we began to have children and decided I indeed would be the one to stay home and raise our children. God took care of us despite having one income, we made do and also did without a few things. We still buy used cars and enjoy them more than a brand new shiney recallable car/van/truck. I argue we women do not need to march to be all we can be. Be the change where you are and it can improve Thank you once again for posting this, I am encouraged that I am not alone

  2. You are SO welcome! Yes sacrifices come but I truly believe God rewards our obedience. My oldest daughter is proof of that now. I applaud you and thank you for taking the time to comment. May you be blessed beyond measure...